If winter makes us snuggle, summer is for sex!
Heat relaxes our muscles, heightens skin sensation and slows us down.
We’re all wearing far fewer clothes (and checking out the legs and breasts and chests suddenly on show).
Is it any wonder we feel far more laid-back and in the mood for sex when temperatures rise?
Make this summer the sexiest ever by ticking off all (you can do it!) of the challenges on my summer sex bucket list.
Abandon the bed and have sex on the floor instead. It’s way cooler than lying on top of a hot duvet or bedspread. Better still…
Play with an ice-cube. It works a treat for teasing – especially if you follow the bits of skin you’ve just ‘iced’ with a hot, warm mouth.
Work a wet T-shirt. Nothing looks sexier than the simple combination of a pair of great fitting jeans and a T-shirt.
UK sex expert Tracey Cox, pictured, challenges you to ‘make this summer the sexiest ever’ with her challenges
Make it even sexier by ‘accidentally’ getting that T-shirt wet so it’s transparent as well. See-through clothing scores higher on the erotica scale than nude flesh. Why?
There’s a world of nudity a click away on your phone and being partially clothed is more mysterious, offering a secret glimpse of something you’re not supposed to see in public.
Get naked and stay naked! If winter is for layering, summer is for peeling them off. Sleep naked. Walk around naked. Take full advantage of being able to lazily explore each other’s body without worrying that either of you are freezing to death.
Sunbathe to supercharge your libido. Our libidos rise during hot weather because sunlight lifts our mood, raising levels of the happiness hormone serotonin and lust-boosting testosterone. We have one third more testosterone in our bodies in June than in January.
Work out outside. Skimpier clothing means we’re more inclined to notice our bods and how they’re faring, so exercise more. Exercise makes us feel better about our bodies which translates to better sex. Which might explain why we have more sex in August than any other month.
Escape the crowd at the next picnic in the park with friends and discover all the hidden places available for bite-size foreplay-style sex sessions (behind a tree, behind the loos). The bigger the crowd, the easier it is to get away with.
Role-play a summer romance by pretending you’ve just met on holidays and about a have a hot summer fling.
Try tantra. Heat makes us feel languid and slow. Make it work for you in the bedroom by trying some simple tantric sex moves. Have sex without breaking eye contact or match your breathing for an astonishingly intimate experience.
Take your knickers off and put on a mid-length dress or floaty skirt. No need to announce it, just grab his hand under the table to show and tell.
Heat relaxes our muscles, heightens skin sensation and slows us down. We’re all wearing far fewer clothes (and checking out the legs and breasts and chests suddenly on show). Is it any wonder we feel far more laid-back and in the mood for sex when temperatures rise? Stock image used
Take off your bikini top and let him use it for tie-up games.
Head to a fun park. Long-term love is a kind, soft, comfy emotion. Lust is primitive, wild and edgy. We need risk and a hint of danger to continue to see our partners as sexual beings. Any type of adrenalin boosting activity drives up the dopamine level in your brain, making you feel lustier. So do anything that slightly freaks you out – jump on a rollercoaster, sky-dive, kick-box, play fight.
Read a racy novel. Reading erotica is a sure-fire way to boost desire so don’t just save them for the beach. Read a little bit before bed and you might find you’re in the mood for more than sleeping.
Go commando. It’s cooler and you can’t help but focus on sex when your bits are free and ready to be ravished!
Get a room. Summer is for holidays, and nothing will get you out of your sex rut quicker than doing it in a new environment, away from your usual routine.
A cool new way to massage. Using oil when you’re both hot and sweaty isn’t ideal. Instead, try using talcum or baby powder while wearing cotton gloves. Talcum is nice and slippery, cooler, and works like oil if you wear gloves. Slide your hands all over his body and let him fantasise away!
HOT PLACES TO HAVE SEX
When it’s cold, you’re restricted to under the covers or in front a fire. Make the most of the heat by moving everything out of the bedroom.
In the bath: If there’s one with jets, you’d be rude not to jump in there with champagne and position yourself where they hit the spot. A good position choice: he sits with knees bent, you sit on his lap.
In the shower. Wear waterproof makeup and use soap free cleanser so fingers can disappear into all sorts of places. Shampooing each other’s hair is an incredibly intimate and sexy thing to do. Let him shave your legs; you shave his face. The best and safest (water is slippery!) position here is doggy style. You bend over with both feet on the floor, he stands behind. If you’re having problems – size problems or agility – both get down on your knees.
On a secluded beach. Take some towels and sarongs, keep the action under them and you’ll get away with all sorts.
In the countryside. Walk a little off the beaten track and you’ll find conveniently placed trees or bushes that shield you from view.
At a famous sight-seeing attraction. Yes, full sex is way too ambitious (unless you find an isolated loo?) but you can certainly get away with a quick snog and/or a fumble behind a post or two at a landmark you’ll never forget.
In a restaurant with long tablecloths. Wear a floaty dress with no pants and keep a straight face while the waiter takes your order.
In the pool, the sea or a hot tub. My advice is to jump in for some steamy foreplay, jump out for the final act. There’s a lot of bacteria or irritants floating about once you have full sex.
Have sex in front of a window with the blinds up. Do it in the dark knowing no-one can see you but you can see everyone else.
Tracey’s product ranges are sold exclusively through lovehoney.co.uk. Her weekly podcast, SexTok, comes out on Wednesdays. All info on traceycox.com.
