A WOMAN has sparked fury after calling her new engagement ring “too cheap”.
While she said she was thrilled when her man popped the question, she was less impressed with the ring he had chosen for her.
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Showing the ring – a small sapphire on a thin gold band – in a post on Facebook she wrote: “When my boyfriend proposed last weekend, I was so caught up in the moment that I said yes without really looking at what he’d put on my finger.
“Now that the excitement has worn off, I’m wondering if he was actually listening when I told him I’d always dreamed of a bigger stone.”
She added that while she loves the jeweller he chose, praising her “incredible craftsmanship”, and said her “unique pieces” are exactly what she’d “hoped for” instead of a “generic mall ring“.
“We’ve talked about engagement rings before, and I specifically mentioned wanting something substantial, something I wouldn’t be embarrassed to show when people inevitably ask to see it,” she continued.
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She questioned whether or not his unwillingness to “invest in something” reflects “how serious he is about our future”, but her sister has been telling her “it’s about the love behind it, not the carat weight”.
“But I can’t shake the feeling that when people see this tiny diamond, they’re going to think he went cheap on me,” she sighed.
“After seven years together, shouldn’t he know that this one thing really mattered to me?
“Am I being shallow for caring about the size, or is it fair to feel disappointed that he didn’t hear me when I told him what would make me truly happy?”
However, the comments section of the post was immediately filled with people slamming her for even questioning the ring.
“Lovely ring. As for you…” one sighed.
“Walk away. He deserves better,” another added.
“You are being shallow,” a third commented.
“Do you love him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? (you clearly said yes) then why is the ring a issue?” someone else questioned.
“Marriage is about loving each other, not about what is on your finger.”
“So shallow,” another agreed.
“She wants the wedding, not the marriage,” someone else commented.
How much should you spend on an engagement ring?
New analysis by engagement ring expert, 77 Diamonds, reveals that the average person across Britain should be spending almost £10k on an engagement ring if they plan to pop the question in 2025.
It’s often said that when buying an engagement ring, a good rule of thumb is that it should cost the equivalent of three months salary.
77 Diamonds has analysed average gross salary data in Great Britain from the Office for National Statistics* to understand exactly what three months worth of salary currently comes to, and reveal the areas of the country in which proposers might be buying the most expensive rings.
- London: £12,916
- The South East: £10,587
- East of England: £10,162
- Scotland: £9,011
- North West: £8,793
- West Midlands: £8,693
- South West: £8,601
- East Midlands: £8,499
- Yorkshire and the Humber: £8,490
- Wales: £8,160
- North West: £8,139
However, others defended the woman – and her thoughts about the ring.
“Girl I get it, and maybe have a convo a little later on about upgrading,” one wrote.
“You don’t want to stomp on his feelings, but you also deserve to have something you want!!”
“I don’t think you are being shallow because you specifically discussed this with him,” another agreed.
Marriage is about loving each other, not about what’s on your finger
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“It is about the love but is this a sign that when you discuss things important to you, that he will do the opposite?
“Something to think about before you get married…”
“I understand what you mean,” a third insisted.
“My husband got something that was well made, thoughtful, unique and simple.
“With that said the ring was so small and it made me feel a bit embarrassed to wear since it’s not really my style and my other everyday jewelry outshines the engagement ring.”
“This ring looks more like a stacking ring type. Too small and dainty for a engagement ring,” someone else wrote.
“It looks too small for your hand,” another wrote.
“How you deal with that will be whether you stay engaged or not.
“Men should not choose rings without fiancée’s. A disaster waiting to happen!”
