A MAN has revealed that his husband’s ex still lives in the family home, and still wears his wedding ring.
Mark, 59 used to be married to Tom, 71 and the pair share a son and a daughter named Coy and Beau.
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The children are twins, and were welcomed by the help of a surrogate, with Mark genetically related to one child, and Tom the other.
The twins were born in 2017, and their two dads separated in 2018, but continued to live in the same home to co-parent.
“I wanted to be involved with the kids growing up and Mark realised that, and we do get on really well”, Tom told Truly.
Then Mark met Moke, 62 at the gym, and the pair instantly hit it off.
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“I finally found the love of my life, and now I have to live with a three-way”, Moke said.
Mark and Moke got married last year, and Tom said he at first felt “depressed” by the news.
“But you know, life goes on, and we get along.”
Addressing Mark and Moke, Tom said: “You guys are perfect for each other, and I love you both.”
At the beginning of their relationship, Moke lived in a separate home, as he didn’t want to confuse the children.
However, the trio then decided to buy a larger house, with Tom living in the pool house out the back.
Beau and Coy love having three dads as “when one says no to something, I have a shot with the next one.”
However, there has been some tension within the trio, as Tom refuses to take off his wedding ring, despite being divorced from Mark.
Moke has also found Tom’s lack of boundaries a struggle, as he has walked in on the duo in the shower before.
Mark and Moke are now planning on having a child using the same surrogate, so that all three kids have the same birth mother.
What is surrogacy?
Surrogacy is the name given for a type of pregnancy where a woman carries and gives birth to another person’s baby.
The surrogate mother is then expected to give up the baby at birth, so it can be raised by the couple who originally wanted the baby.
Surrogacy is often an option for those unable to have children themselves, or for same sex couples.
According to surrogacy charity Childlessness Overcome Through Surrogacy (COTS), there are two different types of surrogacy.
- Traditional surrogacy: When the surrogate uses her own egg fertilised with the intended father’s sperm.
- Gestational surrogacy: The surrogate carries the intended parent’s genetic child conceived through IVF, for which specialist doctors are needed.
How are surrogate babies conceived?
In traditional surrogacy procedures, the egg is artificially inseminated using a syringe.
Gestational surrogacy is carried out through IVF.
During this in vitro fertilisation process, the egg is removed from the woman’s ovaries and fertilised with sperm in a laboratory.
The embryo is then planted in the surrogate’s womb to grow and develop.
This procedure must be carried out by specialist doctors and the biological mother is required to still have working ovaries.
Tom is still going to be involved in parenting the new baby, despite the fact he won’t be biologically related to them.
“I’m excited about Tom being a third dad to the new baby”, Mark said.
Surrogate Ashley, who is the kids’ biological mum, is also now heavily involved in Beau and Coy’s life, adding another parent to the mix.
Moke’s family members, such as his cousin Christa, were at first concerned by the family dynamic.
“Mark and Moke were getting married and starting this beautiful life together and his ex husband is there? I didn’t understand it”, she said.
However, after spending time with the trio, Christa and other family members can see how well the dynamic works.
“It’s triple the fun, triple the drama, triple the excitement in this family”, Moke said.
