A WOMAN has hit out at the “mum cliques” she often meets at soft play, questioning why they always think they’re “better than everyone else”.
Elle took her little boy Sonny to a local garden centre recently, to have a look at the fish there.
When they were there, she looked at the soft play section and noted it was empty, so decided to walk around to have a closer look.
“I walked around to the entrance, turned out it wasn’t empty, it was just closed and there was like a couple groups of people stood outside waiting to go in with their children,” Elle said in a video on her TikTok page.
“But right in front of me there was a big sign that said, ‘Treehouse fully booked today, please book when it’s this time of year’.
“So anyway I’m thinking, cool, whatever, let me just turn around. But as I’m about to turn around, this mum, who’s in a group of mums, she looks at me up and down and she goes, ‘It’s fully booked’.
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“B**ch, what?
“So I’ve looked at her directly back, looked at the sign, looked back at her, looked at the sign again, looked at her and went, ‘I know’.
“Like what made her think I couldn’t see the f**king sign?”
The woman didn’t respond, and turned back to her friends “sniggering away”.
With Elle continuing: “I just thought, honestly, these women – specifically groups of women that have other mum friends and go out in their little cliques of mums – they just think they’re so much better than mums that go out just them and their child.
“I’ve experienced so much uncomfortableness and awkwardness with these groups of mums.
“You think you’re like the It girls of the mum world because you’ve got a group of friends.
“I could quite easily gather up a group of b**ches with kids and go to soft play with them every single f**king day if I wanted to, but I don’t want to do that.”
She added that she’s got her own group of friends – some of whom have kids and some of whom don’t – but certainly isn’t in a “little mum clique” who think they’re “better than other people”.
“It gives, like, you had no friends in school and now you finally f**king fit in somewhere and you think you’re so much better,” she raged.
“Like, b**ch, I don’t give a f**k if you’re in a group of mums, I don’t give a f**k if you’re on your own – it doesn’t matter to me.
“We’re all equal – don’t turn your nose up at people that decide to not hang out with other mums or decide to just chill with their baby on their own.”
Pros of being a young mum
Tracy Kiss, who fell pregnant at 19, has revealed what she beleives are the pros of being a young mother.
The personal trainer and blogger, from Buckinghamshire, believes women who give birth in their teens make BETTER mothers than those in their 30s.
She claims young mums snap back into shape quicker, have more energy and relate more easily to their children, meaning they’re better behaved and happier.
Tracy told Fabulous: “Women who become first-time mums in their teens make better parents than those in their 30s or 40s.
“I believe if I’d been 10 or so years older before becoming a mother then I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with my children now.
“For a start, being older I would have had less energy and therefore less patience.
“I wouldn’t be as enthusiastic to speak to people after months of sleepless nights as I was in my teens.
“My body snapped back to its pre-pregnancy size through fitness post-birth, which in turn gave me the confidence to date and find love again. I’ve never been happier than I am now at the age of 30 with two children.
“If I’d have been alone at 40 with a newborn baby I’d be more tired, less happy with my body, less energetic and far more stressed from the shock of living my life for myself instead of putting others first. Sometimes age and the innocence of ignorance is a good thing.
“As a teen mum I just got on with it, found my feet and became responsible and capable because at the time I didn’t know any different.”
Elle concluded by saying that while she’s had good experiences with some groups of mums, the majority of the time it’s the opposite.
And in the comments section of the TikTok, she quickly discovered she’s not the only person to have the same feelings about the cliques.
“Yessss this is why I stopped going to stay&play sessions,” one wrote.
“This!!” another said.
“Honestly, I’ve given up talking to other mums with children, even the school mums!
“I’m the youngest mum there and the looks I get!”
“I get that all the time being a younger mum, it’s hilarious,” a third wrote.
“Same here,” someone else commented.
“I wait till the school gates are about to close till I do pickup so I don’t have to make conversation with anyone!”
