On the surface, this spat between Olympic swimmer Adam Peaty and his family about his upcoming wedding to Gordon Ramsay’s daughter, Holly, seems like a case of boy-done-good who’s got too big for his boots.
Having triumphed at the Olympics, achieved celebrity status through Strictly and bagged himself a glossy influencer fiancee from a rich, well-connected family, it seems that Adam no longer has time for his old mum and dad.
They don’t fit the picture any more. But it’s not as simple as that.
To recap, Adam’s aunt, Louise Williams, criticised Holly on social media because his mum wasn’t at the hen do.
This seems to have resulted in the entire Peaty clan being excluded from the forthcoming wedding, with the exception of his sister Charlotte, who is still on the guest list – for now.
As an added complication, Adam had to be escorted through Manchester airport by five police officers upon his return from his stag do in Budapest, after the bride-to-be allegedly alerted the authorities about a potential threat from Adam’s own brother, James.
Adam Peaty with his wife-to-be Holly Ramsay and mother, Caroline, who says her son is in ‘Gordon’s clutches’
The former Olympic swimmer and Strictly contestant with Holly and her parents, Tana and Gordon Ramsay
The brothers have a tense relationship. They first fell out when Adam wrote about James’s problems with drugs in his 2021 autobiography.
James apparently felt that the book made him out to be ‘a bum’. They then had another row in June this year, when James was doing some building work for Adam.
They’ve not spoken since, and James was not invited to the stag do. The latter was later arrested at his home, before being released on bail. He’s not been charged, and the alleged threat never materialised.
Yesterday, Mrs Peaty gave a tearful interview to the Daily Mail, in which she said she felt utterly defeated by the whole saga.
On the night of the hen do, she was at home looking after Adam’s little boy George, from his previous relationship.
After dropping him back at his mother’s house in Birmingham, she said: ‘I was crying all the way home. I got home and told [husband] Mark that for the first time in my life I felt I didn’t want to live. That’s how low this has made me. I’m a strong woman and I can get through anything, but this has broken me.’
She added: ‘He’s in Gordon’s clutches. I can’t help but feel like they are pulling him away from me. Their family is very insular.’
One prevailing narrative now is that the Ramsays – glossy Holly, with her glamorous sister Tilly, their fragrant mother Tana and her equally fragrant friends, including Victoria Beckham – are exiling poor Caroline and her family in a Mean Girls sort of a way because they don’t want them ruining the wedding snaps or spoiling their Instagram feed.
There may be an element of truth in that. But there is something else going on, something less about money, status and snobbery and more about that age-old resentment that takes hold in families when one member manages to step out of the mould – and the others feel left behind.
Peaty has often spoken about how he identifies with Ramsay, about how he ‘inspires me to be successful’. It’s clear that he strongly relates to a man who, like him, has defied expectations.
Perhaps he feels that, by marrying into the family, he has finally found his own tribe and doesn’t want to jeopardise that.
But in the end, his mum and dad are his mum and dad. They might not be as Instagrammable as the Ramsays, but they are nonetheless a big part of the reason he is where he is today.
So what if they don’t quite look the part? Marriage is about so much more than the photographs. As for his brother, every wedding has that one unwelcome guest, sulking in the corner. Who cares? They’re his family. They should be there.
Besides, it is perhaps worth remembering that Gordon Ramsay himself wasn’t born with a silver spoon in his mouth. His father was, according to Ramsay’s autobiography, abusive and neglectful.
Ramsay left home at 16 and worked as a pot-washer after an injury put paid to his footballing dreams.
From there he worked his way through some of the greatest kitchens in Europe, all the way to a restaurant empire. Whatever you think of him, it’s a remarkable achievement.
But, rather like Peaty, not everyone in his family had his grit and focus. His younger brother Ronald struggled with drug addiction, and in 2007 was tried in Indonesia for heroin possession.
Ramsay has been candid about the strain that put on him and his loved ones. So it’s understandable that he might be wary about introducing a similar dynamic into his carefully constructed family unit.
Nevertheless, if anyone can understand what Adam is going through, it’s his future father-in-law. And if anyone knows how to bang heads together, it’s Gordon ‘the F-word’ Ramsay. It’s never too late to make amends.
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