A WOMAN who was “addicted to sex” decided to be celibate for six years after it left her feeling “empty” – before meeting and marrying a 30-year-old virgin.
Emily Robbie, 31, from Los Angeles, California, found herself having regular casual sex after coming out of her first relationship aged 21.
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She said the men would then “ghost” her or “wouldn’t commit” which left her feeling “empty” and “drained”.
But after finding her faith, Emily realised sex was just “filling a void” and decided to be celibate.
Four years later, she met her now husband Tyler Stone, 33, who had grown up as a Christian and was waiting until marriage to be intimate and the pair hit it off.
They tied the knot in January 2023 – and say it was “worth the wait” when they finally got into the marital bed.
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“I felt I was addicted to sex,” says Emily, who is an actor.
“It was casual and always this high.
“I was a sexual person. I wasn’t this rigid person.
“When I was with Tyler it was genuine love not lust.
“I’m really grateful we had time to build a foundation.
“When we got to the marriage bed it was beautiful and safe.”
When Emily came out of her first relationship Tinder had just launched and she says she was “open sexually”.
“I was having regular casual sex,” she explains.
“I was getting into little short relationships and was searching for love through sex.
“They’d ghost me or wouldn’t commit.
“I felt really empty. I loved having sex. I was filling a void.”
Emily went through an eight month period of finding herself in three casual relationships.
In the last one she was introduced to the church and when the relationship came to an end she became intrigued and starting looking into faith more.
“I gave myself to God,” says Emily.
“I had abused this privilege of sex.
They’d ghost me or wouldn’t commit. I felt really empty. I loved having sex. I was filling a void.
Emily Robbie
“When I became celibate I really started to restructure my mind about sex.
“I started a long healing journey.
“I believe when you have sex with someone you connect intimately and get tied. I had to untie myself.”
Emily goes on to say that she felt an “overnight shift” when she gave herself to her faith and began dating with a different view.
“When you have sex you become one with someone,” she explains.
“It’s created for you to have pleasure but in the sacred place of marriage.”
Emily had done a lot of healing when she met her husband in September 2020.
She was straight up about how she was re-waiting for marriage and found out he was still a virgin and shared the same mindset.
“We had instant chemistry,” Emily says.
“You know if you’re sexually compatible with someone. You don’t have to have sex with them know. There’s desire and attraction.
“I said I’m waiting until marriage – what do you think?
“He said same and was a virgin. I thought ‘really, he’s really attractive?'”
Tyler grew up a Christian and felt he wanted to wait until marriage to do the deed – despite having the temptation at points.
They dated for a year and a half before getting married and living together.
“We connected on such a deep level,” Emily explains.
“We definitely struggled at times but we waited.
“People said when you get married it’s not different. We wanted it to be making things different.”
And now the pair are happier than ever and have a great sex life.
“It was fun to get to figure it out together,” Emily says.
“I felt he was more experienced than I was. He was helping me though it.
“It’s a place of safety.
“If we’d have sex before marriage it would have felt dysregulated.”
Emily has shared her story on TikTok and says she has been called “damaged goods” because she slept with people prior to being celibate.
Sex is the biggest bonus but not the reason why I’m with her
Tyler
“I like to say celibacy it’s for everybody – not just for Christians,” she says.
“Any body could do it. It’s for yourself – to heal part of you.
“I feel people rush sex because they want to be loved.
“If you could wait – it’s beautiful.
“There’s healing and it’s super powerful.”
Tyler adds: “I had the option to have sex but in the moment it wasn’t what I wanted.
“I wanted to wait until I was in a safe place. I didn’t want to do that with anyone but my wife.
“She [Emily] re-waited. That’s just as pure as I was.
“It was hard for her to rewait.
“Sex is the biggest bonus but not the reason why I’m with her.”
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